You ask "Why?" and we answer "Why not?"
God's timing is....perfect. We have been pretty active with Crisis Pregnancy Center for the last couple of years. Because of this, we have seen the alarming statistics on the number of the abortion in the United States as well as all over the world. Our awareness of this, in addition to having our own daughter, as both a blessing and joy, is what God has used to place this desire on our hearts to adopt a child at this point in our lives.
We always thought we would adopt a child "when we were done having our own kids". But as Allison was memorizing Ephesians 1:3-6, adoption was always at the front of her mind. Not 15 years down the road, but now. God had placed the desire on Allison's heart to adopt a child to be her own just as God has adopted her as His daughter.
Allison brought this up to Brent, not expecting the response she got. When Brent told Allison that he had already been praying about adoption for a while and he had the desire to adopt while continuing to have children of our own, Allison was very surprised and pleased.
At this point, we prayed. and prayed. and prayed. We sought counsel from others and felt that God was calling us to expand our family through adoption.
So, back to the WHY?
We wholeheartedly say to that question, "Why not?" We cannot see any reason why we would not welcome a child into our home as our son or daughter. We did nothing to deserve the grace and mercy that God poured out on us as His adopted children. Through Christ's sacrifice and death on the cross, we are His blood bought children. His death and resurrection has saved us from a life of utter destruction and an eternity in hell. We have the opportunity to give that gift to a child, so why wouldn't we? We can rescue a child from a life of poverty, foster care, or even no life at all as a result of abortion. We can rescue that child as Christ has rescued us. Not only will we give that child love and care, but we will raise the child in the fear and admonition of the Lord. Our prayer is that one day we will not only call that child 'son' or 'daughter' but we will be able to call that child a brother in Christ.
As Christians, we feel that this is one way we can fulfill the Great Commission. We can bring the mission field home. We are called to care for the orphans and the fatherless. We want to bring God glory through our adoption.
International or Domestic?
At this time, we are pursing a domestic adoption. We are seeking a newborn baby with no preference towards race or gender.
How long will it take?
This is difficult to answer as the timeframe is different for everyone. We obviously want it to be as quick as possible, but that may not be God's plan for us. First, we must complete a homestudy(which we have already begun that process). Once we are past the homestudy and are 'waiting parents' it becomes a waiting game until a prospective birth mother chooses us as the adoptive family.
Do you still want to have biological children?
Yes! We would be so thrilled if the Lord blesses us with another biological child. We could very well end up with multiple children under the age of 3! It is all in the Lord's hands and in His perfect timing our family will grow.
Isn't adoption expensive?
Yes, adoption can be very expensive and that is something we have taken into consideration. Yet, we feel very strongly that God has called us to adopt, and while it can be cliche to say "God will provide" it is still true. We truly beleive that God will provide the means for us to adopt. Whether it be through grants, donations, or some means we have not even thought of, we believe that God will be faithful to those who seek to bring Him glory.
How can you help?
First, we ask for your prayers and support. Just as God knit Raelynn in Allison's womb specifically for us, God is creating another child for us in the same way. We ask for prayer for us as we go through all the adoption steps. We also ask that you would begin praying now for our child and for the birth mother. Finally, we would ask that you pray for God to provide the funds that we will need to adopt our child.
We will be having various fundraisers over the course of the next few months that we will need help and support to accomplish. We also have a PayPal 'Frazey Family Adoption Fund' account set up that you may donate to as well.
"Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places in Christ, just as He chose us in Him before the foundation of the world, that we would be holy and blameless before Him. In love He predestined us to adoption as sons through Jesus Christ to Himself, according to the kind intention of His will, to the praise of the glory of His grace, which He freely bestowed on us in the Beloved." Ephesians 1:3-6